The unwritten parental constitution has changed immensely over the last 50 years. In earlier times, parents had a lot more expectations for their kids. Maybe it was just the way it was in that era or maybe it was out of sheer necessity. More recently, parents in general can’t seem to do enough for their kids, even when they are pressed for both time and money. If we don’t accommodate all of their desires, then we have tremendous guilt. I get it. I’ve had plenty of guilt, but not because I didn’t love and care for my kids. It’s because I said no to many of the things other kids took for granted. Like smart phones. Before you judge me too harshly, just know that mine had a flip phone which they got for 8th grade graduation. I wanted to teach delayed gratification and that trying to “keep up with the Joneses” was neither wise nor sustainable.